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Hi there!

Okay, so last yesterday (Sunday), the beautiful wifey and I were watching a M*A*S*H* marathon of our own devise. I was playing WoW and downing Manhattans like they were Gatorade, and she was snuggling with the kittehs and falling asleep.

There was one episode that struck me as slightly ... off. It was a 3rd season episode entitled: "Life with Father". In this episode, Col. Henry Blake gets a letter from his wifey, saying essentially: "I know that you're miles away from me in a foreign country, and that sometimes people get lonely, so if you should turn to someone else for ... comfort, I would never hold it against you".

Now, when Henry first receives this letter, he is overjoyed. Not because his wonderful wifey has just given him permission to fool around outside of their marriage, but because he has been given permission to continue to fool around outside the marriage.

What? You didn't think he'd been FAITHFUL to her all this time?

The truth is, in a time of war, when people are apart, sometimes Absence makes the heart go yonder. It basically went without saying that many of the M*A*S*H* regulars were carrying on affairs while overseas, and people generally looked the other way and assumed: "What happens in Korea, stays in Korea". Even the alarmingly chaste BJ Hunnicut, who stayed faithful for most of the series, had an occasion to "fall off the fidelity wagon" with a lovely nurse who stops by the 4077th.

So when Col. Henry Blake gets "permission" to cheat, he immediately goes to brag to the other guys that he's the luckiest guy in the world, and now has carte blanche to fool around. He is positively beaming with joy.

Until ... he starts to suspect his wifey Lorraine's motivations for this sudden permissiveness. Could it be that ... SHE has strayed during his absence?

By the end of the episode, he discovers that yes, she has been straying, with a guy from the local dance club. Poor little Henry Blake is devastated. He has tears in his eyes, he feels betrayed, his entire world crashes down upon him. His beloved wifey, the woman he loved and trusted, has been ... exactly as faithful as he has. It's absolutely heartbreaking.

Explain?



Yes, I'm sure that the POINT of the episode was the hypocrisy in cheating on your spouse while expecting HER to remain faithful. And I realize that this was the 1950s, where you really couldn't blame a GUY for wanting to sow a little wild oats while out on the front, but a WOMAN was expected to be more chaste than Penelope until his return. I get that. I just don't get how someone can be hurt by someone committing the selfsame sin that they've been committing for the past three and a half seasons.

Is this the way human emotions work, and I've just been a shapeshifting alien sleeper agent all this time? That would certainly explain a lot about me. [twitches]

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synnoveaevael
Feb. 24th, 2009 06:54 pm (UTC)
yeah. double standards. they be awesome.
wurmwyd
Feb. 24th, 2009 07:57 pm (UTC)
Hi there!

In many cultures, these are the double standards that are seen as "romantic". :) The philandering lover sees his partner with someone else and gets JEALOUS, and the audience sighs: "Awww ... he really did love her after all ..."
synnoveaevael
Feb. 24th, 2009 08:06 pm (UTC)
yeah. i never got that.
wurmwyd
Mar. 12th, 2009 03:16 am (UTC)
Hi there!

Apologies for the Russian spammer that just flooded the comments section of this post with really offensive images. :(
synnoveaevael
Mar. 12th, 2009 06:37 am (UTC)
yeah, that was fun and special! wow!
rowanf
Feb. 24th, 2009 07:04 pm (UTC)
It has never made sense to me either. The mores of a lot of tv/movies/pop culture leaves me scratching my head.
wurmwyd
Mar. 12th, 2009 03:15 am (UTC)
Hi there!

Apologies for the Russian spammer that just flooded the comments section of this post with really offensive images. :(
emyrldlady
Feb. 24th, 2009 07:10 pm (UTC)
Have you watched Mad Men? Wow, talk about cheating and double standards of the times!
wurmwyd
Mar. 12th, 2009 03:15 am (UTC)
Hi there!

Apologies for the Russian spammer that just flooded the comments section of this post with really offensive images. :(
black_rider
Feb. 24th, 2009 07:20 pm (UTC)
In short; yup.

Have you watched Grey's Anatomy? My roommate watches it, everyone's having affairs, they're all miserable, and it kind of makes me want to shoot someone in the face.

Not that I would. But I can WANT TO all I like.
wurmwyd
Feb. 24th, 2009 07:47 pm (UTC)
Hi there!

Well yes, but to be fair, last episode there was actually a fistfight over someone dating the sister of a co-worker's girlfriend. What's up with THAT?!

Okay, true story: My wifey and I took a vacation to France back in '99. We had wine with dinner every night. When we got back, we tried to order a nice glass of California White Zinfandel and discovered that we had turned into effete wine snobs in 7 days. We were TRYING to be snobby, we didn't think that we were somehow SUPERIOR to our American countrymen, and we hadn't really even tried to refine our palates while overseas. We just came home and drank a really good glass of wine, and it magically tasted like grape juice. The snob thing was a complete accident. Really!

For me, it's been like that ever since I first read about polyamory. "You ... you mean that I don't HAVE to be jealous if my beloved falls for someone else? They can love me AND another person and we can all be happy together?".

Since I read about THAT, every romantic triangle seems to me like more trouble than it's worth. "Victor's a great guy! And it's obvious that Ilsa loves BOTH of you, so why not just get on the damn plane?". "Derek, you obviously love Addison, you obviously love Meredith, they both respect and like each other, what's the PROBLEM here?".

It's really poisoned my feeble little brain. :(
wurmwyd
Mar. 12th, 2009 03:15 am (UTC)
Hi there!

Apologies for the Russian spammer that just flooded the comments section of this post with really offensive images. :(
lizardqueen
Feb. 24th, 2009 08:11 pm (UTC)
Men can be idiots. And I always hated M*A*S*H.
wurmwyd
Feb. 24th, 2009 08:26 pm (UTC)
Hi there!

Men can be idiots? You have some recorded instances of men NOT being idiots, hrmm? (Yes, I'm being cruel to my own sex)

I love M*A*S*H*. In the later episodes it totally turns into: "Liberal Porn", but I love it. :)
wurmwyd
Mar. 12th, 2009 03:07 am (UTC)
Hi there!

I guess these are the Russian non-spammers you'd mentioned? [sigh]

This is going to take me an hour to delete ... :(

You must be getting it worse. I don't know if you can even see this comment amidst the spam from Russia you're getting. :(
b_side_plays_on
Feb. 24th, 2009 09:34 pm (UTC)
Ah, WoW. I'm so glad I quit that game.
wurmwyd
Mar. 12th, 2009 03:15 am (UTC)
Hi there!

Apologies for the Russian spammer that just flooded the comments section of this post with really offensive images. :(
elmo_iscariot
Feb. 25th, 2009 03:09 pm (UTC)
And I realize that this was the 1950s, where you really couldn't blame a GUY for wanting to sow a little wild oats while out on the front, but a WOMAN was expected to be more chaste than Penelope until his return.

Took the words right out of my mouth.

A guy "strays", and he's just being masculine. A woman "strays", and SHE ARE DEFILED!
wurmwyd
Mar. 12th, 2009 03:14 am (UTC)
Hi there!

Apologies for the Russian spammer that just flooded the comments section of this post with really offensive images. :(
aalyara
Feb. 25th, 2009 09:05 pm (UTC)
That episode always bugged the heck out of me too! It's one of the only reasons I didn't really like Blake (I and a staunch Potter fan). Don't forget Potter was only tempted, never cheated. :P
aalyara
Feb. 25th, 2009 09:07 pm (UTC)
Oh, and my Hunter can kick your character's bum any day o' the week!
wurmwyd
Feb. 26th, 2009 01:24 am (UTC)
Hi there!

And totally ...

My highest is still 47th level. I don't understand you "shoot up to 80th within a year of getting the game" people.

It probably has something to do with the fact that wifey would murder me if I spent that much time online. :P
aalyara
Feb. 26th, 2009 09:59 am (UTC)
My main character is up to 70 now but the only reason is that my boyfriend helped me pretty much all the way. Being in two different states, we only really have television shows, the phone, and the game to share fun. It's going to be a totally different thing after September and I'm back in the east. I already told him we will have to meet up with you and yours on the shore or something. ;)
wurmwyd
Feb. 26th, 2009 01:21 am (UTC)
Hi there!

I had totally forgotten about Sherman T. and Mildred! Sherman was probably the most consistently faithful member of the 4077th, unless you count Father Mulcahy being faithful to his vows, or Margaret being faithful to Donald Penobscott until she found out that HE was cheating.

I liked that Potter found the way to be perfectly regimented and "Old School" Army, and yet was still laid back enough to match Hawkeye and BJ in tomfoolery.

But what I DO love about MASH is that whenever they replaced an actor on the show, they never chose THAT VERY SAME CHARACTER played by someone different. When they replaced Frank Burns, they got Charles E. Winchester, who was completely different from Ferret Face, but still a foil for Hawkeye and BJ. Col. Potter was nothing like Blake, but still a perfect commanding officer. It was awesome.
aalyara
Feb. 26th, 2009 10:03 am (UTC)
Yeah, that is a reason why I've continued to re-watch the episodes. They stayed fresh and tried not to reuse a concept, and if they did reuse it they at least gave it a new spin.
Also, remember that when Margaret did cheat they did it because they were absolutely terrified of dying - they were just clinging to something living. Plus, the next day Margaret was all ready to divorce Penobscott and become faithful to Hawkeye. She might have had a few lovers on that show, but she remained loyal to each of them.
wurmwyd
Mar. 12th, 2009 03:14 am (UTC)
Hi there!

Apologies for the Russian spammer that just flooded the comments section of this post with really offensive images. :(
dietrich
Feb. 26th, 2009 04:00 pm (UTC)
What's interesting to me about this is that, poly or no, I certainly have dealt with jealousy. And my experience is that as soon as one partner has a parallel experience to the other partner (e.g., falls in love with someone else and doesn't feel a diminution of love for the first partner), the jealousy fades. It makes me feel better to be having fulfilling relationships outside of my marriage when my husband is having them, too. :)
wurmwyd
Mar. 12th, 2009 03:16 am (UTC)
Hi there!

Apologies for the Russian spammer that just flooded the comments section of this post with really offensive images. :(
dietrich
Mar. 13th, 2009 07:04 pm (UTC)
The fuck? Weird, man.
wurmwyd
Mar. 13th, 2009 07:08 pm (UTC)
hi there!

The lovely lizardqueen had a complaint in her journal about Cyrillic spammers, and immediately after posting it, someone went through everyone on her friends list and posted that stream of pics over and over again.

I happened to be one of those lucky souls. Go me! I banned the person from my journal, but not before he/she flooded this post with spammage. >:( Sorry again!
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